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Abuse & Sex Crimes at FOSDEM and Open Source tech events

posted by Roy Schestowitz on Apr 10, 2024

[Article 2 years old]

Reprinted with permission from the Free Software Fellowship.

IF a woman experiences abuse at an open source tech event, how should she respond?

Should she fight for her life? Should she make breakfast for her attacker? Or should she simply join a whisper network?

Each year FOSDEM has a Legal & Policy Issues dev-room. In 2019, the president of the OSI, Molly de Blanc, stood up in the Legal & Policy dev-room to give a talk about community guidelines. Molly's message to women: "you lean on the whisper network"

whispering network

(Full video here)

This idea is as insulting as it is dangerous. Why are sex crimes not on a par with other types of crime? If somebody steals your car, do you go to the police or do you call the whisper network?

Molly de Blanc, whisper network, Debian

We suggest that for any woman who experiences sex crimes at an open source event: your best course of action is to leave and seek assistance from a doctor. Even if you have not suffered any physical injuries the doctor is probably the person most qualified to support you. Doctors swear the hippocratic oath, it is a promise to do what is best for their patient.

Members of Molly's anti-harassment gulag, who have renamed themselves to Community Team, do not swear a hippocratic oath. They have no training or experience to assist a genuine victim of abuse.

Molly de Blanc, Chris Lamb, Mollamby

All these people have conflicts of interest. For example, Molly herself was secretly sleeping with Chris Lamb when he was leader of Debian. Imagine a woman comes to Molly's team to make an abuse complaint about Lamb or one of his close friends. The victim subsequently finds out the person processing the complaint was Lamb's girlfriend. The victim would feel even more violated.

There are two things that can happen if a woman places her trust in Molly's kangaroo court:

It should be clear that in either direction, you, the victim, have no real prospect of privacy or dignity when dealing with these people.

The Debian Community News Team has covered a series of leaks from the debian-private whisper network. Techrights is publishing debian leaks. Nothing is secret in Debian.

Can women trust other women?

Women trusting women simply because they are women is not a good choice.

There are numerous examples of women like Molly who have been sympathetic to or even in cahoots with male abusers.

Molly de Blanc

Molly de Blanc █

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